Have you ever tried to change your image by changing your appearance in some way? Most probably you have. People are sensitive about appearance and too often ready to make judgements according to what they can see with their eyes.
There are jobs in which it does matter what people wear and look like. Also, there are social occasions when the dress code is decisive. Uniforms are standardized appearances meant to immediately label people as belonging to definite categories. A mere color put on one day can show the emotional state of the wearer. So, yes, appearance is important and has its messages to communicate.
Appearance can be deceiving, though. Why not waiting for people to confirm through their behaviour and speech what they really are or, maybe, play the role they have chosen for a certain situation before giving them feedback? You can be badly mistaken about people because you judge them too quickly before they even have the chance to speak or do things.
How you appear before people together with how you speak to them results into your image. Your image together with the actions you take gives the measure of your achievements in your professional and social life.
First people give information about themselves without speaking and they can be judged by their appearance only. But then, they speak. And speaking can either confirm or contradict what the physical appearance and gestures have suggested. This is one of the keys to decoding the other’s intentions.
While speaking we present the interlocutor with two aspects about ourselves: firstly, our knowledge on the subject and secondly, how skilled we are at conveying our message. Being aware of these two communication pillars represents another key to understanding the interlocutor’s probable intentions. Informative content and information delivery, meaning what we say and how we deliver that piece of information, are equally important when we speak because they mirror who we are or the role we play at a certain moment in the social environment. And this is of great use to us on our way to reaching our goals, isn’t it?
Learning how to speak properly can be transformative. It educates and reduces socially generated frustrations. Also, it allows human value circulation, hence intellectual self-enrichment. Consequently it triggers a higher degree of personal self-contentment or even happiness if we are perseverant enough about pursuing our targeted objectives.
Learn languages. Study them and be aware of the power of words, be aware of the power of syntax and beware of your discourse flaws. They may prevent you from getting closer to your objectives.
People have been building appearances for themselves since for ever. Only to unfold them through actions and speech.
In September Virginia’s Books will host a speaking workshop on how adequate speech can support one’s change of appearance.
When you speak in a foreign language it is important to have an appropriate choice of words and apply a correct syntax in order to be in accordance with your looks and, eventually, with your goals.
Our conversation will rely on how use of formal and informal language can show one’s degree of situational awareness. Real life scenarios will be used and it is recommended that the participants should be at least level B1 in English.
During the speaking sessions of this workshop you might also want to give us your opinion on the ideas stated in the article.
Check our Agenda for details.